Who You Are Matters
When I was a young girl, probably 14 or 15, I was deeply
impacted by commercials showing Sally Struthers amidst the impoverished
children in Africa, beseeching us to adopt one of them as our very own, and
promising that our 59 cents a day would go directly to the child, providing
food and education, security and a future. In return, she described the
drawings and letters we’d receive from our adopted child; I imagined it as an
actual relationship of sorts, like the pen pals that were so popular at that
time.
So, I sent in my babysitting money and adopted a child. It
lasted two months. When my mom found out, she made me give back my adopted
child. Her reasoning was not clear in my unsophisticated mind. Somehow in the
exchange about it, I came away feeling shamed, like a sucker to have fallen for
what was clearly some kind of sham. And so when the Christian Children’s Fund
commercials came on, I no longer watched, pushing away the idea that I could
make a difference to a child so far away.
Spending time with the children at the Orphanage in Haiti was
a homecoming for me, though it took the better part of our three visits for me
to break open and fully let them in
to my heart. I bore witness to the difference one small group of people from
New England (including Union Church) made in these children’s lives: eyes lit up
at the soccer balls and jump ropes; shrieks of laughter rang out at the effects
of sitting on a whoopee cushion; a kind of watchful awe was visible on their
faces as they watched their own face emerge on a Polaroid photo; and small shoulders
were squared with pride when, on our last night there they showed us through
pointing and gestures that they were wearing the clothes we had brought for
them. Let me just say -- they were loving those new clothes!
Spending time at the orphanage was a homecoming for me
because finally, five years after releasing my CD, “Feed the Tribe”, I felt
that I had truly lived into some of
the songs I had written, like Enough,
What Goes Around, and Feed the Tribe. Throughout that week, I
was in relationship with these young children, some of whom had parents who
could no longer afford to feed them and some of whom were truly orphans. Though
we spoke different languages, no words were necessary when conveying through
hugs and games, that: “Who you are matters.”
And they have so little: On our second visit there, I got out
some beads and string and sat down to help the children make their very own
bracelet – each one would have their name, a cross representing “Jezu” and a
few colored beads on each side. In short order I was swamped with children
delighted at the prospect of customized jewelry. Even the little boys wanted
one. Surprisingly, the first people to commandeer the space to make a bracelet
were the workers. As I watched them, I had no judgment. They were as excited as
any of the children, and I thought, “They too have so little”. As cheap as
these beads were, as small as this gesture was, we were saying, “Who you are
matters.”
On our
third and last visit there, in the still-searing evening heat, I danced and played twister and gymnastics and drew on the
blackboard with the children. Others from our team played games and drew and
colored pictures on sketch pads.
One little girl latched on to me
and nearly broke my heart. Proudly
wearing her “new” black Hanna Montana
t-shirt, she drew flowers on the blackboard and did flips by climbing up my
pants and over; we danced and when I said "chaud" (hot), she blew
gently on my face. At one point with her two small hands, she wiped the sweat
off my neck. Toward the end she climbed onto me and just put her head down
while I walked around the room. I hummed to her and kept repeating "Tres
Belle", tears mingling with the sweat on my face.
On the way out I said, “Me Jenny.
Ou nom?” (What is your name?) Her dark eyes smiled into mine a bit shyly it
seemed, and she replied: “Daphka”.
I left her to climb up to her 3rd
floor room. And then, walking out into the courtyard, toward the metal gate and
the streets of Port-Au-Prince, I heard "Bon Soir Jenny!" I turned and there was Daphka, her small
frame leaning out over the third floor railing, waving wildly, blowing kisses, and
repeating her calls of farewell.
In that moment, Daphka showed me: Who you are matters.
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